When You are Not Looking They are Growing Up…

Clover and Sebastian at Empower Event in Denver
Clover and Sebastian at Empower Event in Denver

Clover and Sebastian at Empower Event in Denver

It’s funny the saying

The days are long but the years are short

This has truly been my experience with being a mother to my two sweet darlings Sebastian and Clover. Sebastian is now 7 getting ready to start 2nd grade in a couple weeks and Clover is turning 5 years old and will be in her last year of preschool. She reminds me everyday at some point that her birthday is coming very soon. (Which reminds me that I do need to book her party, if she would make up her mind)

The journey for us has been a little more difficult since my son, Sebastian has Asperger’s Syndrome which is basically high functioning Autism. He has grown leaps and bounds and continues to have BREAKTHROUGHS everyday. He is a testament to Michael and I about how strong the human will and spirit is and that he WILL be fine.

When we first got the diagnosis back when he was just a little over 2 years old… I remember feeling so desperate and depressed and guilty. I felt like I had done this to him, like there was something as his mom that I didn’t do properly. I continued to wallow in my pity. Then all of a sudden we decided not to let this label actual be his LABEL. We knew if we took ACTION that his outcome could be and WOULD be different.

There were many years of struggle with the condition.. outbursts, screaming fits, crying (most of it from me), and just frustration but day by day we stuck to the plan of the therapy and just loving him with all our hearts and embracing all his oddness and quirky behaviors…We would just chalk it up  and say that’s just Sebastian.

The cool thing with Sebastian is that he used the law of attraction is his life constantly… he managed to always fall into the right class with the right teachers that were willing to help him just a little bit more. We fell into incredible therapists that had such true compassion and dedication into rehabilitating him. We fell into this amazing neighborhood where we live now and elementary school and we continue to be blessed with services and top notch teachers. I am so grateful. I feel such gratitude because Sebastian has taught me more about myself than I probably could ever teach him.

I was moved to post this message tonight because as I tucked Sebastian into bed he asked me for a coconut oil massage.. I happily gave it to him and he looked so content and relaxed and happy… I couldn’t help think of the time, not that long ago, when we would literally go into hysterical fits if I tried to apply any kind of cream or lotion on him. It just hit me like a brick wall… PROGRESS….He is growing and maturing and changing and I am privileged to see this magnificent boy grow up… again I feel gratitude.

Well that’s all for tonight… I will save my post about Clover for another night —> she is just an angel sent from heaven to heal our family… I will have to elaborate another day.

Basically these two kids are my WHY…my Why is everything I do… My WHY in my mission to work from home eventually full time. If you have the desire to do the same JOIN OUR TEAM GAME CHANGERS. You can change the game and make life what you want it to be.

Have an open mind and heart and you can conquer the world!

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  1. Frances - August 21, 2013 11:55 am

    You wrote beautifully and from the heart, Alicia. Progress, yes, and by leaps and bounds in different ways for Sebastian and Clover . . . and for you and Michael. How interesting it is to take a quick look back as you walk along that wonderful new path.

    • admin - August 21, 2013 2:37 pm

      Thank you so much for the comment. Yes I feel such gratitude! I am glad you liked the post.. I know you have seen the changes with your own eyes as well…


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